The short answer: The three big swinger sites are SDC, SwingLifestyle (SLS, which is moving to Swing.com), and Kasidie, and swingers on Reddit say the right one depends on where you live, because each is busier in some regions than in others. Apps such as 3Fun, Feeld, Quiver, and #open each have their own way for couples to join together. Most let you join free, but full messaging usually needs a paid membership, and SDC charges single men more than couples and women. AseeksB, which publishes this page, works differently: you post a personal ad saying what you want and choose who can see it, and posting, browsing, and replying are free; its lifestyle community is still growing.
r/Swingers, Reddit’s main board for talking about swinging, sums up the field in its sidebar: SwingLifestyle, “largest in U.S.”; SDC, “largest outside of U.S.”; and Kasidie, “younger, party crowd.” Here is how the main sites and apps compare, from their own app store listings, terms, and help pages, checked on October 12, 2026, and what swingers on Reddit say about them. AseeksB publishes this page and is one of the apps compared; we’re still growing in the lifestyle community, and we say so below.
| Site or app | Built for | Couples | Free account | Paid, a month (US) | Verification and review | Events and clubs | Platforms |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| SDC | Couples and singles | A couples profile | Free signup and a 3-day trial with full access, then paid | $26.99 for couples and women; $32.99 for men | Member validations | Events and clubs directory; travel calendar | Web, iOS, Android |
| SLS, now Swing.com | Singles, couples, and groups | A joint couples profile | Create a profile, search, browse events and clubs, and receive messages; premium adds unlimited outbound messaging | $19.99 or $24.99 | SLS Certifications | Events, clubs, and travel | Web; SLS Official on iOS; Social Lifestyle on Android |
| Kasidie | Couples, singles, and groups in ENM and swinging | Not stated on its public pages | Receive and reply to messages, search, and attend some parties | Elite membership; price shown after login | Certified badge: a sign photo, a vouch from someone who met you, or staff at an event | Parties, events, and travel | Web only |
| SwingTowns | Swingers, and open, poly, and kink-friendly people | Not stated on its public pages | “Meet real, local swingers in your area for free” | Premium; price shown after login | Not stated on its public pages | Not stated on its public pages | Web |
| Quiver | Adults, solo or partnered | Couples share one login | 30-day free trial with full access | $14.99 | Verified profiles | Events with RSVPs; travel planner | Web, iOS, Android |
| 3Fun | Singles and couples, ENM | One shared couple account, or two linked accounts | Chat with matches | $29.99 (VIP) | Photo verification | None | iOS, Android |
| Feeld | Open-minded singles and couples | Partners link their own profiles, up to 5 | Chat after a mutual like | Majestic; price shown in the app | Not checked | None | iOS, Android |
| #open | Individuals and couples in ENM | A shared Partnered Profile, alongside each partner’s own | Like, pass, and chat | $9.99 or $14.99 | Phone number at signup | Club applications and event tickets | iOS, Android |
| 3rder | Open-minded couples and singles | Couple profiles | Not stated | $14.99 or $24.99 | Every profile reviewed; no identity check stated | None | iOS |
| AseeksB | Text-first personal ads, kink-friendly | Posts can be marked as coupled | Post, browse, and reply, with one active post and a daily allowance of post views | Free; optional Supporter: $14.99, or $7.99 a week | No identity verification; posing as someone else gets you banned, and admins actively monitor posts | None | iOS, Android |
As each site or app described itself on October 12, 2026, in its app store listing, terms, or help pages, linked in each entry below. Monthly prices are in-app purchases on the US App Store; the websites show prices only after you log in, and prices vary by country.
The advice on Reddit is to use whichever site is busiest where you live. Beyond that, these are built for different things:
| If you want | Where to start |
|---|---|
| An established swinger site, with club and event listings | SDC, SLS (Swing.com), or Kasidie, whichever is busiest where you live |
| An app with its own way for couples to join together | 3Fun, Feeld, #open, Quiver, or 3rder |
| A free personal ad in your own words, with a say in who sees it | AseeksB, still growing in the lifestyle community |
| Talking with other swingers, or local meetup posts | Reddit’s swinger boards |
| Meeting people in person first | Clubs, house parties, and meet-and-greets, which the established sites list |
Most of these sites publish their prices only inside a logged-in account, so the clearest public prices are the in-app purchases on the US App Store. SDC is the only one that lists different prices by who you are: single men pay about 22% more than couples and women.
AseeksB works the other way around: the key features are free, and Supporter is optional. A free account can post, browse, and reply, with one active post at a time and a daily allowance of post views that refreshes every 24 hours; creating a post adds more. Supporter costs $7.99 a week, $14.99 a month, $29.99 for three months ($9.99 a month), or $49.99 for six months ($8.33 a month). It adds up to 7 active posts, unlimited post views, post stats, advanced search (including by kink role and for couples’ posts), traveling mode, and the option to require a photo before someone can message you.
| Plan | 1 month | 3 months | 6 months | 12 months | Other |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| SDC, couples and women | $26.99 | $53.99 | $80.99 | $134.99 | |
| SDC, single men | $32.99 | $65.99 | $98.99 | $164.99 | |
| SLS | $19.99 or $24.99 | $29.99 or $54.99 | $49.99 | $69.99 or $99.99 | Lifetime: $149.99 or $199.99 |
| Quiver | $14.99 | $39.99 | $119.99 | After a 30-day free trial | |
| 3Fun (VIP) | $29.99 | $39.99 | |||
| 3rder | $14.99 or $24.99 | $34.99 or $39.99 | $49.99 | ||
| #open (supporting membership) | $9.99 or $14.99 | ||||
| AseeksB Supporter (optional) | $14.99 | $29.99 | $49.99 | 1 week: $7.99 |
US App Store in-app purchases on October 12, 2026, from the listings for SDC, SLS, Quiver, 3Fun, 3rder, and #open. SLS’s and 3rder’s listings show two prices for most plans without saying who pays which. Kasidie, SwingTowns, and Feeld show their prices after you sign up. AseeksB’s prices are its own, as of October 12, 2026.
SDC, short for Swingers Date Club, its registered trademark, says it has been running since 1999 and has more than 3 million members in over 100 countries. It is built for couples and singles, with a directory of local events and clubs, a travel calendar for announcing trips, and, since March 2025, a partnership with Bliss Cruise. Signing up is free, with a three-day trial that includes every feature; after that, membership is paid, and on the US App Store a month costs $32.99 for single men and $26.99 for couples and women. Its terms say renewal is on by default and payments aren’t refunded. Reddit commenters describe SDC as the bigger site in Texas, Florida, and the Southeast, and in Europe.
SwingLifestyle, or SLS, has been running since 2001 and calls itself the world’s largest swinger community. It is moving to a new site, Swing.com, which describes itself in its FAQ as “formerly SwingLifeStyle.com and SLS.com”; on October 12, 2026, both sites were live, and Swing.com had an “SLS Mode” button. On Swing.com, a free account can create a profile, search for members, browse the events and clubs directories, and receive messages, and premium adds unlimited outbound messaging, on monthly, quarterly, or annual plans. Couples can create a joint profile. Its iPhone app is still SLS Official Swinger Community; its original Android app left Google Play in July 2025, and its Android app is now Social Lifestyle. Reddit commenters in Michigan, Philadelphia, and the DC area describe SLS as the bigger site there, several say its site feels dated, and two wrote in the summer of 2026 that the move to Swing.com was under way.
Kasidie, now at enm.kasidie.com, calls itself an ENM lifestyle and swinger community for couples, singles, groups, and hotwives. A free account, its FAQ says, is “yours to keep” and can receive and reply to messages, search for members, and attend some parties; Elite membership, billed monthly or quarterly under its terms, adds more, with prices shown after you log in. Members can earn a Certified badge by sending a photo of themselves holding a sign with their username and the date, by being vouched for by a certified member or club owner who has met them, or by meeting Kasidie staff at an event, and certified members get chat rooms, instant messaging, and video chat. Members can also block free members or single men. It works in a browser; we found no app. Reddit commenters describe it as strongest in the Pacific Northwest.
SwingTowns promises on its homepage that you can “meet real, local swingers in your area for free (seriously).” Its terms describe a paid premium subscription, billed automatically, with the price shown after you log in. It works in a browser; we found no app in Apple’s or Google’s stores.
Quiver, from SeaChange Digital in Colorado, describes itself as a community for adults, solo or partnered, and says “women set the tone.” Couples share one login and choose who they are acting as. Its terms give new members a 30-day free trial with full access; after that, the US App Store lists $14.99 a month, $39.99 a quarter, and $119.99 a year. It lists events with RSVPs, added a travel planner in July 2026, and runs on the web, iOS, and Android. The r/TexasSwingers sidebar lists it among popular Texas sites.
3Fun calls itself a dating app for singles and couples, and a place to explore ethical non-monogamy. A couple can share one account, or each partner can keep their own and link the two, so matches know who they are chatting with. You need at least one photo to like or pass, and chatting with matches is free; VIP, from $29.99 a month on the US App Store, adds unlimited likes, Incognito, and five Pokes a week to reach people before you match. It runs on iOS and Android.
Feeld, built for open-minded singles and couples, lets partners link their own profiles, up to five, through a feature it calls Constellations. Chat opens after a mutual like, and a paid Ping lets you send a note first; its paid membership is Majestic. Some Reddit commenters say it works more evenly across regions than the swinger sites do. For more, see our page on apps like Feeld.
#open, now listed in the App Store as #Open: ENM IRL, describes itself as a social app for individuals and couples exploring ethical non-monogamy. You can keep a Solo Profile and also share a Partnered Profile with your partners, each of you on your own device. The free membership lets you like, pass, and chat; a supporting membership, $9.99 or $14.99 a month, adds seeing who liked you, intros, and unlimited likes. Its App Store listing also promotes applications to clubs and tickets to events.
3rder, now listed as Couples & Poly Dating: 3rder, is an iPhone app for open-minded couples and singles. It added Enhanced Couple Profiles in December 2025, says it reviews every profile to reduce fake accounts, and lists $14.99 or $24.99 a month on the US App Store.
AseeksB, which publishes this page, is a text-first personal ads app, and we’re still growing in the lifestyle community; most members are in the US. It works differently from the sites above. On the swinger sites, you build a profile and search or message members, and full messaging usually needs a paid membership; on the apps, a conversation usually starts with a mutual like. On AseeksB, you write a post saying what you’re looking for, in your own words, choose who can see it by gender and age, and people reply to the post directly, with no match needed first. Couples can mark a post as coupled, and kink-related posts can carry up to 5 of the 90 role tags, including Swinger, Stag, Vixen, Hotwife, and Bull. Someone can send one message per post until you reply, photos are optional and free to see, and Supporters can require a photo before someone can message them. There’s no identity verification: members describe themselves, and anyone found posing as someone they’re not is banned under our post guidelines. Admins actively monitor posts, and you can report someone even after unmatching. Posting, browsing, and replying are free on iOS and Android, with no trial or membership needed; Supporter, from $7.99 a week, is optional.
The r/Swingers wiki’s list of swinger sites, last revised in 2022, also includes AdultFriendFinder, Lifestyle Lounge, Swinging Heaven, and Swinger Zone Central, among others; Reddit commenters mention Lifestyle Lounge for the Midwest and Swinging Heaven for Canada.
In six threads we read on r/Swingers and r/nonmonogamy, posted between 2023 and October 2026, the advice that came up most was to use whichever site is busiest where you live. “It’s entirely based on where you live,” one Texas couple wrote in a thread on SDC or SLS. “It’s all about the user base.” Several commenters pointed to Swingers Help’s list of the most popular sites by city, which the r/Swingers wiki also points to.
Most sites let you join free, but the r/Swingers wiki warns that most are “fairly useless until you pay for a premium membership.” Single men face the longest odds: couples in these threads say new single-male profiles far outnumber the couples looking for one, and many couples filter single men out. Clubs, house parties, and meet-and-greets came up almost as often as any site, as the easiest way to meet people and to collect validations from people who have met you. Some commenters see apps such as Feeld as more consistent from one region to the next, and expect apps to win out; others say the established sites still have fewer fake and flaky profiles.
Reddit has a large, well-moderated swinger community, split between boards for talking, boards for meeting, and regional boards:
| Board | What it’s for | Followers | Weekly visitors | Weekly contributions |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| r/Swingers | Discussion and questions; no meetup posts | About 651,200 | About 224,000 | About 5,100 |
| r/swingersr4r | Meetup posts from couples and single women | About 756,200 | About 134,000 | 517 |
| r/SwingerNewbies | Questions from people starting out | About 63,700 | About 16,000 | 597 |
| r/UnicornSwingers | Single women meeting couples | About 181,600 | About 33,000 | 626 |
| r/SwingersBullMarket | Couples and single women looking for a single man | Not shown | About 53,000 | About 2,500 |
| r/StagVixenLife_R4R | Meetup posts for stag and vixen couples | About 124,700 | About 29,000 | 354 |
| Board | Area | Followers | Weekly visitors | Weekly contributions |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| r/Socalswingers | Southern California | Not shown | About 91,000 | About 7,500 |
| r/TexasSwingers | Texas | Not shown | About 76,000 | About 2,700 |
| r/FloridaSwingers | Florida | Not shown | About 58,000 | About 2,300 |
| r/HoustonSwingers | Houston | About 120,800 | About 34,000 | About 2,400 |
| r/MichiganSwingers | Michigan | About 134,500 | About 34,000 | About 2,400 |
| r/Indiana_Swingers | Indiana | About 140,600 | About 33,000 | About 2,800 |
| r/KYSwingers | Kentucky | About 72,800 | About 32,000 | About 2,400 |
| r/NorthCarolinaSwingers | North Carolina | About 89,300 | About 32,000 | About 2,100 |
| r/TampaSwingers | Tampa | About 86,700 | About 29,000 | 902 |
| r/OHSwingers | Ohio | About 63,200 | About 28,000 | About 2,100 |
| r/SCSwingers | South Carolina | About 63,900 | About 27,000 | About 1,700 |
| r/NewYorkSwingers | New York | About 62,700 | About 23,000 | About 1,100 |
| r/swingersLasVegas | Las Vegas | About 47,500 | About 21,000 | About 2,000 |
| r/Oklahoma_swingers | Oklahoma | About 67,000 | About 20,000 | 756 |
| r/ChicagoSwingers | Chicago | About 81,400 | About 17,000 | About 1,000 |
| r/ColoradoSwingers | Colorado | About 102,100 | About 16,000 | 566 |
As each board showed them on October 12, 2026, with followers as Google lists them. Reddit lets moderators rename these counts, so some boards show them under their own labels: r/Swingers, for example, calls its weekly visitors “Naughty subscribers.”
r/Swingers is for discussion: meetup posts belong in r/swingersr4r, it bans posting anyone’s screen name from a lifestyle site, and it keeps hotwife and cuckold content out, as a different dynamic. Posts from accounts without a Reddit history are held for review. r/swingersr4r is where couples and single women post to meet: posters must be 21 or older and can post once a week from accounts at least 21 days old, posts must include photos showing everyone involved together, single men can’t post, and locations must be specific down to the US state.
The regional boards set their own rules. Many let single men comment but not post, as on r/Socalswingers and r/HoustonSwingers; r/NorthCarolinaSwingers lets single men post twice a week, and asks everyone to give their age, location, and what they are looking for, in one post a day at most. r/HoustonSwingers verifies members by photos of them holding a handwritten sign with their username and the date. Most of the ones we read ban selling, OnlyFans links, and moving people to other apps such as Telegram or Snapchat. Reddit’s largest swinger boards by size are photo boards, not for meeting: r/Swingersgw has about 517,000 weekly visitors and r/Swingersgonewild about 187,000. For local boards in your city, see Notes from the Road, and for how Reddit personals work, our guide to Reddit personals.
Fake profiles and scams come up often in these threads, including profiles that reuse real couples’ photos. The habits swingers recommend are consistent: look for validations or certifications from members who have met someone in person, have a short video call before meeting, meet first at a club, party, or meet-and-greet, and never send money. Some boards warn that anyone asking for cash is running a scam.
AseeksB isn’t a swinger site with club listings and event calendars, and our lifestyle community is still growing, so local activity may be lower than on the established sites for now. Every couple and single who joins makes it busier for the next.
We’d like to build AseeksB with the lifestyle community, and we’re happy to build features swingers know from other sites, or would find useful. If there’s something you’d want, such as validations from people you’ve met, or club and event listings, tell us through the app, from the profile tab; we’d love to hear it. And if you know couples or singles who’d like a text-first way to meet, share this page or the app with them.
Post as a couple or single, in your own words. The key features are free, and Supporter is there when you want more.
SDC is Swingers Date Club, a registered trademark of SDC Media. SLS is SwingLifestyle, which is moving to a new site, Swing.com. Both are long-running swinger sites with apps for iOS and Android.
It depends on where you live. In the Reddit threads we read, commenters reported SDC as the bigger site in Texas, Florida, Tennessee, and Europe, SLS in Michigan, Philadelphia, and the DC area, and Kasidie in the Pacific Northwest. Swingers Help keeps a list of the most popular sites by city.
Most let you join free, but full messaging usually needs a paid membership. On October 12, 2026, a free Swing.com account could receive messages, with premium adding unlimited outbound messaging; a free Kasidie account could receive and reply to messages; SDC offered a three-day trial with full access, and Quiver a 30-day one. AseeksB is free to post, browse, and reply; Supporter, from $7.99 a week, is optional.
SDC does: on the US App Store, a month costs $32.99 for single men and $26.99 for couples and women, and a year $164.99 against $134.99. SLS’s App Store listing shows two prices for each plan without saying who pays which, and most of the websites show prices only after you log in.
Both. SDC, Quiver, 3Fun, Feeld, #open, and 3rder all have iOS apps, and most are on Android too; SLS’s apps are SLS Official on iOS and Social Lifestyle on Android. Kasidie and SwingTowns work in a browser.
It is what swingers call swinging and the community around it, often shortened to LS.