The short answer: Apps people compare with Feeld include Nymph, #open, and 3Fun, built for open relationships, polyamory, and couples; OkCupid, a mainstream app with a non-monogamous setting; Pure, built around a short ad; Lex, text posts for LGBTQ+ people; Sniffies, a live map mainly for gay, bi, and curious men; and AseeksB, a text-first personal ads app. They differ most in how a conversation starts, whether couples can join together, and what it costs to message.
We checked Feeld and eight apps people compare it with in October 2026, using each app’s own help pages, terms, and store listings: AseeksB, Lex, Pure, and Sniffies on October 4, and Nymph, #open, 3Fun, OkCupid, and every app’s couples features on October 12. Prices are from the US App Store and vary by country. AseeksB publishes this page and is one of the apps compared.
| App | How you start | How a conversation starts | Cost to message | Couples | Browse without an account | Apps |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Feeld (for reference) | A profile with Desires tags; at least 1 photo | After a mutual like; paid Pings let you send a note first | Free after a mutual like; unlimited likes are paid | Partners link their own profiles, up to 5 | No | iOS, Android |
| AseeksB | A written ad with a title; photos optional | Reply to an ad directly; one message until the poster replies | Free; no limit on your own posts or in open conversations; messaging someone else’s post depends on free post views, which refresh every 24 hours, and posting adds more | Posts can be marked as coupled | No | iOS, Android |
| #open | A profile, solo or shared with partners | After a mutual match | Free to like and chat; a supporting membership adds intros and unlimited likes | A shared Partnered Profile, alongside each partner’s own | No | iOS, Android |
| 3Fun | A profile; at least 1 photo to like or pass | After a mutual like; paid Pokes and Priority Messages reach people first | Free with matches; VIP from $29.99 a month | One shared couple account, or two linked accounts | No | iOS, Android |
| Lex | Text posts; a profile with name and pronouns | Message directly in the app | Free; a set number of free posts each month | No couples profile | No | iOS, Android |
| Nymph | A profile with photos, relationship style, and what you’re open to | After a mutual match; a like can carry a message | Free, with a daily cap on likes; Nymph+ and NymphX add unlimited likes | Partners link their own profiles, up to 10 people | No | iOS, Android |
| OkCupid | A profile with photos and questions; a photo is required to message | After a mutual like, or one Intro before they like you | Free with matches and Intros; Premium shows who liked you | One person per profile; a non-monogamous setting | No | iOS, Android, web |
| Pure | A short ad; photos not needed; you post your own ad to see others | Chat opens on a mutual like | Subscription required | None documented | No | iOS, Android, web |
| Sniffies | No ad; people appear as pins on a live map | Message people directly | Free; a paid plan adds extras | None documented | Yes, as a guest | Web (its iOS app was removed in May 2025) |
Lex is for LGBTQ+ people, and Sniffies mainly for gay, bi, and curious men. For how these apps compare with Craigslist Personals, see Apps people try instead in our comparison of Craigslist Personals alternatives.
AseeksB is a text-first personal ads app. You write an ad in your own words, choose who can see it by gender and age, and people reply to the ad directly: one message until you reply, then the conversation is open. Photos are optional and free to see, posts can be marked as coupled, and kink-related posts can carry up to 5 of the 90 role tags. It is free on iOS and Android and available worldwide, though most members are in the US.
#open, now listed in the App Store as #Open: ENM IRL, describes itself as a social app for individuals and couples exploring ethical non-monogamy. You can keep a Solo Profile and also share a Partnered Profile with your partners, each of you on your own device. Messages open after a mutual match. The free membership lets you like, pass, and chat; a supporting membership, $9.99 or $14.99 a month, adds seeing who liked you, intros, and unlimited likes. Its App Store listing now also promotes applications to clubs and tickets to events.
3Fun calls itself a dating app for singles and couples, and a place to explore ethical non-monogamy. A couple can share one account, or each partner can keep their own and link the two, so matches know who they are chatting with; linked partners can bring matches into a group chat. You need at least one photo to like or pass, and chatting with matches is free. VIP, from $29.99 a month, adds unlimited likes, Incognito, and five Pokes a week to reach people before you match.
Lex is a free, text-first social app for LGBTQ+ people: you write text posts, keep a profile with your name and pronouns, and message people directly in the app, with a set number of free posts each month. There is no couples profile; its help pages suggest saying in your profile that you are partnered.
Nymph describes itself as a dating app for non-monogamy and anyone curious about what is beyond traditional dating, for singles and couples alike. You build a profile, a chat opens after a mutual match, and a like can carry a message. In October 2026, it added a way to link up to 10 people to your profile and bring them into a chat once your match approves. Free accounts have a daily cap on likes; Nymph+, $15.99 a month, and NymphX add unlimited likes, filters, and boosts. For more, see our page on apps like Nymph.
OkCupid is a mainstream dating app with a non-monogamous setting: if you set your relationship type to non-monogamous, you see only people who are non-monogamous or open to it. Each profile is for one person; joint profiles are not allowed, and its help pages suggest mentioning partners in your profile instead. A photo is required to message. Messaging matches is free, and you can send one Intro to someone who has not liked you yet. It runs on iOS, Android, and the web.
Pure, now listed as PURE: Open-Minded Dating App, is built around a short ad, with no photos needed, and you post your own ad to see other people’s. A chat opens on a mutual like, and messaging requires a subscription. We found no couples profile or partner linking on its official pages.
Sniffies is a map-based cruising app, mainly for gay, bi, and curious men. There is no ad: people appear as pins on a live map, you can browse as a guest, and you message people directly; it is free, with a paid plan for extras. It runs on the web; its iOS app was removed from Apple’s App Store in May 2025. For more, see our page on apps like Sniffies.
FetLife also comes up next to Feeld, but it is a social network for the kink community rather than a dating app. Joining is free, with an optional paid support membership, and it runs in a browser rather than through Apple’s or Google’s app stores. See FetLife and AseeksB, and, for the FET dating app, apps like FET.
Swinger sites. On Reddit’s r/Swingers, couples comparing 3Fun and Feeld also point to the established swinger sites: SDC, which describes itself as a dating app for couples and singles; SwingLifestyle (SLS), which has been running since 2001; and Kasidie, a social network for swingers and other non-monogamous people, built around parties, club listings, and forums. SDC and SLS are paid memberships: on the US App Store, SDC charges $26.99 a month for couples and women and $32.99 for men after a three-day trial, and SLS starts at $19.99 a month. We compare them, with prices, in Swinger Apps and Sites Compared.
A swipe profile usually starts with “this is me.” A personal ad starts closer to “this is what I’m looking for.” That is a better starting point when what you want is specific, niche, or kink-friendly, and hard to compress into a few profile prompts and a grid of photos.
When the words come first, the first message already has something to be about. You are not matching on an impression and then working out, several messages later, that you want completely different things. The intent was in the ad.
The swipe format is not bad, it is just built for a different goal. Swipe apps optimize for volume and discovery, and that creates a few familiar frictions for people who already know what they want.
AseeksB is built for the same curious, kink-friendly crowd, open to ENM and poly, but it is a personal ads app, not a swipe app: the post, not the photo, does the work. You can post, browse, and start conversations without a subscription.
AseeksB Supporter adds more control when you want it: more active posts, advanced search, traveling mode, post stats (how many people viewed your post, by age, gender, and distance), unlimited post views, and stronger filters like requiring a photo before someone can message you.
An app can be open-minded and still make finding the right person harder than it needs to be. The better test is what happens after you start using it.
For kink, ENM, and poly connections, control and privacy matter more, not less. AseeksB was built with structure from the start: audience settings on every post, moderation, reply controls, and reporting that still works after unmatching. You can read more on the Safety & Moderation page. Whatever the app, a short video call before meeting is a simple way to check that someone is who they say they are.
Which alternative fits depends on what you used Feeld for. For a profile-and-match app built around ENM and polyamory, look at Nymph and #open; for couples looking together, 3Fun and #open have shared profiles; OkCupid adds a non-monogamous setting to a mainstream app; and Lex and Sniffies are built for queer people and for gay, bi, and curious men. If you would rather say what you want in your own words than swipe, AseeksB is built for that: text-first posts, optional photos, kink-friendly categories, audience controls, and basics that are free on iOS and Android.
Text-first personal ads in your own words. Supporter adds more posts, advanced controls, and more messaging power when you want them.
Yes. AseeksB is a free, text-first personal ads app for people who would rather say what they are looking for than swipe on photos. It is kink-friendly and runs on iOS and Android.
Yes. AseeksB is free to download and free to post on, with all key features free: you can post, browse, and start conversations without a subscription. In our October 2026 check, #open, 3Fun, Nymph, and OkCupid also let you message matches for free, with paid plans for extras such as unlimited likes; Pure requires a subscription to message.
Yes, several. In our October 2026 check, 3Fun lets a couple share one account or link two; #open has a shared Partnered Profile alongside each partner’s own; Nymph lets you link up to 10 people to your profile and bring them into a chat; and OkCupid has a non-monogamous setting but allows only one person per profile. On AseeksB, posts can be marked as coupled. Feeld itself lets you link up to 5 partners’ profiles.
Both are built for open-minded dating, and both start with a profile and a mutual match. On Feeld, a paid Ping lets you send a note before you match, and you can link up to 5 partners’ profiles; on Nymph, a like can carry a message, and since October 2026 you can link up to 10 people to your profile. Feeld’s paid membership is Majestic; Nymph’s are Nymph+ and NymphX.
AseeksB starts with text instead of a photo. You write a personal ad, choose who it is for, and people respond based on intent, so there is no mutual-like ritual and nothing to swipe through.
Yes. In our October 2026 check, apps people compare with Feeld include Nymph, #open, 3Fun, OkCupid, Pure, Lex, Sniffies, and AseeksB. Nymph, #open, and 3Fun are built for open relationships and couples, OkCupid has a non-monogamous setting, AseeksB and Pure are built around written ads, Lex around text posts for LGBTQ+ people, and Sniffies around a live map. The table on this page shows how each one starts a conversation, how couples can join, and what it costs to message.
Yes. AseeksB supports kink-friendly categories and 90 role tags, with audience controls, moderation, and reporting that still works after unmatching.