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Historical language

Paying attention

A phrase from historical newspaper personal ads, explained with real examples from the archive.


Courting someone, or showing them interest.

TypeHistorical language
CategoryPeriod vocabulary
Earliest example in the archiveFebruary 20, 1862, New York Herald
Most common1800s to the 1900s

History

To pay attentions to a woman was the standard phrase for courting her. In 1862 a New York writer hoped to hear again from a woman to whom he had been paying some attention on the train to Baltimore, which is either very polite or very suggestive.

Sources: Merriam-Webster, attention.

In the archive

Today

The modern equivalents are flirting or showing interest.

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